Before exploring the attributes of Lilith in the 5th house, we should mention that the article is about Black Moon Lilith. Thus, we should distinguish this mathematical point of alignment from the asteroid Lilith, and also from Dark Moon Lilith, which is calculated in a different way.
Lilith is not a planet and is not a material object. It is the hypothetical point connected to the apogee of the Moon’s orbit, the farthest spot from Earth that the Moon can reach. The Moon is not orbiting Earth in a circle but in an ellipse, and thus this calculation shows the astrological degree in the signs where when the Moon transits is more distant from our planet.
Black Moon Lilith is a rather obscure point of an individual’s natal chart. This topographical extreme of the Moon makes emotion and sentiments hit a low and show their cold side, and the placement of this mathematical spot signifies quite a lot of doubtful or even negative behaviors. Under one’s Lilith can hide subconscious energies of malice and self-undoing, yet it would be wrong to consider her as something mostly negative.
Having Lilith in the 5th can complicate an individual’s recreational expression. It may be connected with disharmonic memories the person has from how he played in the childhood. He might have felt malice, hate or jealousy from other kids during games, dancing or sports activities, which subconsciously influences the way he perceives such types of experiences during his adult life. Also, there are possibilities that he was feeling ashamed during such occasions, which can in turn create a strong drive to take a symbolic revenge towards the world during such situations.
As the 5th house is the realm of Leo, Lilith’s presence feeds the desire of being appreciated, which naturally leads to showing off very frequently. The native needs to feel being the central actor on stage, and will frequently even develop underground strategies in order to achieve it. This can lead him even to take dancing lessons in order to dance better, build stereotypes of catchy behaviors to use them while partying, and generally find ways to attract the eyes of other people in order to cause admiration.
Lilith has a lot of seductive traits and characteristics, thus giving strong sexuality to the individual in this placement during these recreational activities. Yet, it can also cause dark feelings such as jealousy or hate from other people in the same surroundings, especially those that perceive the individual as an antagonist. And there are usually more than a few other people also desiring to be the epicenter of attention, so Lilith can create quite a lot of power games “on the dancefloor”.
In addition, as the 5th house is ruling one’s first child and the relations with children in general, Lilith can bring discomfort in such matters. This placement can make someone be in a love/hate relation with his children, pathologically adoring them but at the same time blaming them for the sacrifice of his leisure activities in order to spend time with them.
The 5th house is the realm of casual sex, and Lilith can bring quite promiscuous patterns of behaviors to the native. Especially if she is in Scorpio, or adversely affected by malefics, she can lead to dangerous games in the native’s love life. This will bring quite a lot of partners, constant flirting and secretive activities. Both the individual and his partners may be severely hurt through such behaviors, and the native might even enjoy using and hurting people emotionally. In case this happens, the individual should review his childhood to see whether he was emotionally hurt in love in his early ages. Very frequently, he will discover that potential negative behaviors to people he has affairs with may be a subconscious revenge towards the archetype of “erotic partner”, due to scars left from that love disappointment in his young age. If you have this placement, be careful with your urges to cheat on your significant other. It may hurt him a lot, and also your children-if you have any.
Generally, Lilith can cast an obscure shadow over the native’s sexuality, bringing dark fantasies of pain, torture or even rape. It awakens the beast, the animalistic sexual depths that do not allow the flourishing of emotions. Casual sex can become for them an uncontrolled obsession, and their affairs will be rather cruel from both sides concerning feelings. On the other hand it will strengthen the carnal pleasure to a maximum, with both them and their partners enjoying very intense situations.
A person with Lilith in this house will battle with inner fears of failing in matters connected with the 5th house. The fear of rejecting his children might even make him delay the process as much as he can. In addition, there is a tendency to child abuse, or an inner battle with paranoid wishes to do that.
Lilith presence in the fifth house can make someone a cunning speculator, while also lead him to gambling games in which he will not be fair. Cheating in them will not only bring money but also fulfill the dark pleasure of tricking the other person. This unhealthy behavior is more frequently present to people who have hard aspects to their Lilith. Of course, the hard aspects usually also make him get caught and bring various other problems and misbalances afterwards.
The best way of softening the difficult traits of Lilith is symbolically indulging in 5th house matters where the ego dissolves and is recomposed in a different character. Join an amateur theatre organization, and act. To your alter ego that is acting, pass all your negative urges and fears. With the help of this alter ego, you will be able to somehow cleanse your real self. Of course, there are many techniques one can use to partially get rid of the difficult behaviors that Lilith gives. Nevertheless, all forms of art and creation are very good channels for letting our darkness flow away from us.